Breakups and breakdowns

I’ve found that the words I use are important.

Words generate feelings, and feelings generate energy, and the energy that’s created can be positive and constructive or negative and destructive.

So it’s good for me to remember that the words I use can be powerful, little building blocks that can create piece by piece, or little sledgehammers that can destroy blow by blow.

If we’re going through the difficult period that envelopes all of us, almost every one of us, at some point in our lives, it’s often called a breakdown, a nervous breakdown.

If we’re going through the difficult period at the end of a relationship, it’s often called a breakup.

What if we called both not a nervous breakdown or a relationship breakup, but a breakthrough?

Breakdown and breakup are focused on a difficult now and all the decisions and behaviours of the past that led us to now.

Breakthrough is focused on now and the opportunities and choices we can make today to create a new future.

Breakdown and breakup are infused with regret. Breakthrough is full of hope.