The honesty trade-off

In the short term, when you don’t speak honestly:

  • Other people might like you a bit more
  • You will like yourself a bit less

In the short term, when you speak honestly:

  • Other people might like you a bit less
  • You might begin to doubt yourself a bit more

In the long term, when you don’t speak honestly:

  • Other people will trust you a bit less, and begin to dislike you
  • You might begin to like yourself a lot less

In the long term, when you speak honestly:

  • Other people will trust you, and begin to like you a lot more
  • You will like yourself a lot more

One of the best ways to approach life is honesty over the long term.

A long term commitment to honesty takes three things:

  1. Resilience, because in the short term honesty can raise the hackles of people close to you
  2. Reflection, because if you’re going to be honest, you need to figure out what your truth is
  3. Patience, because the long term takes a while